Dating Abuse

You are not stupid.

You are not a punching bag.

You are not dependent on anyone but yourself.

You are not his cure.

You are not inferior.

You are not alone.

Dating abuse which is also known as dating violence is defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context of dating or courtship. It is also when one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through violence. This abuse/violence can take a number of forms: sexual assault, sexual harassment, threats, physical violence, verbal, mental, or emotional abuse, social sabotage, and stalking. It can include psychological abuse, emotional blackmail, sexual abuse, physical abuse and psychological manipulation.

Love is not abuse.!!!

Break the cycle..!!!!

What can you do?
» Do not suffer in silence. Tell your friend, parent, teacher or counselor.

» Make sure you are safe if the relationship is physically abusive, but definitely end it.

» Make healthy choices before getting into a relationship.

» Be aware of and do not ignore danger signals.

» Do not blame yourself or feel guilty. It is not your fault. The abuser is the only one responsible for the violence.

What can parents do?
Educate yourself about the consequences of abusive relationships. Remember that as the guardian, you need to model respectful behavior in relationships. Look out for warning signs of abuse in your teen. Be supportive and help her/him end the abusive relationship in a safe way. Parents, school and college authorities should develop strategies to protect teens from dating violence as well as model and promote positive and healthy relationships.

Child Labor : A form of Domestic Violence

There is no reason,

There is no excuse

CHILD LABOR is CHILD ABUSE

India is sadly the home to the largest number of child laborers in the world. 
Poverty and lack of social security are the main causes of child labor. The increasing gap between the rich and the poor, privatization of basic services and the neo-liberal economic policies are causes major sections of the population out of employment and without basic needs. This adversely affects children more than any other group.  Lack of quality universal education has also contributed to children dropping out of school and entering the labor force. Child labor is highest among schedules tribes, Muslims, schedule castes and OBC children.
A major concern is that the actual number of child laborers goes un-detected. Laws that are meant to protect children from hazardous labor are ineffective and not implemented correctly.
A growing phenomenon is using children as domestic workers in urban areas. The conditions in which children work is completely unregulated and they are often made to work without food, and very low wages, resembling situations of slavery. There are cases of physical, sexual and emotional abuse of child domestic workers. The argument for domestic work is often that families have placed their children in these homes for care and employment.

Bonded Labor 

Bonded child labor is a hidden phenomenon as a majority of them are found in the informal sector. Bonded labor means the employment of a person against a loan or debt or social obligation by the family of the child or the family as a whole. It is a form of slavery. Children who are bonded with their family or inherit a debt from their parents are often found in agricultural sector.
They mostly come from low caste groups such as dalits or marginalized tribal groups. Bonded child laborers are at very high risk for physical and sexual abuse and neglect sometimes leading to death. They often are psychologically and mentally disturbed and have not learnt many social skills or survival skills.
So it's not just the women who become victim of domestic violence, in our country children too suffer from domestic violence. 

World revolves around the children, 

Children's future revolves around education.

STOP CHILD LABOR !!!

Violence Against Women: An Unfinished Agenda

It's hard at first... really hard.

You may even question if leaving was the right decision.

It was the right decision.

After the shock, when the fog lifts, things will start to get easier...

Domestic violence is a burden on numerous sectors of the social system and quietly, yet dramatically, affects the development of a nation. 

Domestic violence is a global issue reaching across national boundaries as well as socio-economic, cultural, racial and class distinctions. This problem is not only widely dispersed geographically, but its incidence is also extensive, making it a typical and accepted behavior. Domestic violence is wide spread, deeply ingrained and has serious impacts on women's health and well-being.
In simple words, Domestic violence can be described as the power misused by one adult in a relationship to control another. It is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse.

As a victim of Domestic Violence you live in a constant state of alertness and anticipation waiting for the next attack to occur...

Domestic violence is the most common form of violence against women. It affects women across the life span from sex selective abortion of female fetuses to forced suicide and abuse, and is evident, to some degree, in every society in the world.
Domestic violence against women is an age old phenomenon. Women were always considered weak, vulnerable and in a position to be exploited
The gender imbalance in domestic violence is partly related to differences in physical strength and size. Moreover, women are socialized into their gender roles in different societies throughout the world.
 Husbands who batter wives typically feel that they are exercising a right, maintaining good order in the family and punishing their wives.

Effects On Children

Domestic Violence leaves a mark on the whole family...

Children living with domestic violence suffer emotional and psychological trauma from the impact of living in a household that is dominated by tension and fear. These children will see their mother threatened, demeaned or physically or sexually assaulted. They will overhear conflict and violence and see the aftermath of the violence such as their mother's injuries and her traumatic response to the violence.  Children also may be used and manipulated by the abuser to hurt their mother.

A child may be directly targeted by the perpetrator and suffer physical abuse, sexual abuse and/or serious neglect. It has been more than 2 decades since the overlap between domestic violence and child abuse was identified; men who abuse their partners are also likely to assault their children. The abuse of women who are mothers usually predates the infliction of child abuse. At least half of all abusive partners also batter their children. The more severe the abuse of the mother, the worse the child abuse.

You can spread a lifetime trying to forget a few minuets of your childhood..

Daughters are more likely than sons to become victims. Woman abuse is also the context for sexual abuse of female children.
There is clear evidence that abusers often increase their use of violence and abuse to stop their partners from leaving, or to force their partners and children to return home following separation. The abuser may attempt to take the children away from their mother to punish the woman for leaving and in some cases children have even been killed.  The risk to children during separation is substantial. 

DIVORCE- End Of Violence Against Women.

If he's not doing anything to keep you,

then why are you fighting to stay!!!

While divorce remains one of the most challenging events that someone can experience, the unacceptable trauma of domestic violence can make the process truly devastating. 
One of the first steps begins with listening closely to people going through divorce who may be experiencing domestic violence. Domestic violence does not always mean physical violence. It includes restrictions of freedom and coercive control of resources. Family law attorneys can help by offering the kinds of support, resources and advice that can really make a difference.
A victim of domestic violence should never feel ashamed or embarrassed when talking about these issues with the lawyer. 
Victim's rights in a divorce with domestic violence may not always be clear. It is wise to find a divorce lawyer that is experienced in helping domestic violence victims. A lawyer's expertise will ensure you remain safe and get what you deserve in a divorce settlement.

You may feel stuck in your marriage because either you fear for your life or your spouse has drained you of all of your energy to leave. Don't give up. You have the rest of your life ahead of you and the abuse you go through does not have to continue. Protect yourself and get away from this situation as safely as possible.

ISOLATION- Husband's Dominance

I wonder why I am?

 Where I am in my life? 

Why I want MADNESS and DISTORTION ?

 Why I enjoy the pain of  depression and isolation?

 Am I addicted?

 If so.

 Then to what?

Isolation is a form of abuse often closely connected to controlling behaviors. It is not an isolated behavior, but the outcome of many kinds of abusive behaviors. By keeping her from seeing who she wants to see, doing what she wants to do, setting and meeting goals, and controlling how she thinks and feels, he is isolating her from the resources (personal and public) which may help her to leave the relationship. By keeping the victim socially isolated the batterer is keeping her from contact with the world which might not reinforce his perceptions and beliefs. Isolation often begins as an expression of his love for her with statements like if you really loved me you would want to spend time with me, not your family. As it progresses, the isolation expands, limiting or excluding her contact with anyone but the batterer. Eventually, she is left totally alone and without the internal and external resources to change her life.

A message to all the Women reading this :

You are confined only by the walls you build yourself....

Domestic Violence Act, 2005

Domestic Violence Act, 2005

The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 is an act of the Parliament of India enacted to protect women from domestic violence. It was brought into force by the Indian government from 26 October 2006. The Act provides for the first time in Indian law a definition of "domestic violence", with this definition being broad and including not only physical violence, but also other forms of violence such as emotional/verbal, sexual, and economic abuse.

It's important for each and everyone of us to know what actually you should do ...

If you are a victim of domestic violence, what can you do?

This is a special law focused on victims and giving them relief from domestic violence. You can file an application under this law. This does not stop you from seeking other civil or criminal action against the offenders.

Who are the different authorities you can approach under this law?

As a victim, you can approach either the ‘Protection Officer’ or the ‘Service Provider’ under this law. You can also approach the police or a Magistrate directly.

What can you expect from the courts when you file a complaint?

The judge or the Magistrate can order many different measures under this law in order to ensure your protection and well-being. This includes protection orders, residence orders, monetary relief, custody orders and compensation orders.

Reference

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Protection_of_Women_from_Domestic_Violence_Act,_2005

FEMICIDE

I really want to help stop violence towards women...

Why is it always women who need to suffer?

Women is also a human being, they should also have right to live.

Then why do people in some parts of the world continuously killing the females.

FEMICIDE is basically the killing of a woman or girl, in particular by a man and on account of her gender.

With the growing awareness about domestic violence and sexual assault, we rarely use the most concise word for brutality against women: femicide, the murder of a woman. 

Every woman has the right to live in dignity—free of fear, coercion, violence and discrimination. Every woman has the right to health, including sexual and reproductive health. Yet, for hundreds of millions of girls and women worldwide, these human rights are denied.

I am a WOMAN, that's my MISTAKE !!!

Today and every day we must speak out forcefully for zero tolerance of all forms of violence against women and girls. And we must recognize that this is not a woman’s issue—this is an issue that concerns us all.

Women are murdered all over the world. But in India a most brutal form of killing females takes place regularly, even before they have the opportunity to be born. Females not only face inequality in this culture, they are even denied the right to be born. 

Instead of thinking "yet again he's showing us more violence, " I hope people start thinking, " What can I do to change this? "